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Do you have a business communications question or business etiquette dilemma? Ask the expert Barbara Pachter.

Question:
Hello: I work for a corporation that holds a lot of "get togethers" outside the office. They usually go to a hotel in a resort area not far from the corporate offices. Do you have specific tips on how to present oneself in this type of "work parties" environment? I am not American by birth and I come from a culture that does not promote this type of business "outing" with your peers and bosses. Thank you!

Answer:
Thank you for your question. Here are some suggestions:

1. Attend the "get togethers." In the US these functions are seen as team building opportunities and your absence will be noticed. And if spouses are expected, bring yours.
2. Dress appropriately. Nothing too sexy.
3. Do not get drunk.
4. Mingle. Don't just talk to the people you know. Talk about other things besides work.

Best of luck,
Barbara

Question:
A client calls to say that he's in town (on other business). He suggests that we meet for dinner and asks me to make the arrangements. Is he assumed to be the host because he suggested the dinner or am I assumed to be the host because he is a visitor in my town and I made the arrangements? How can I gracefully determine who should pay for dinner?

Answer:
Thank you for contacting Ask the Expert.

The client is technically the host since he asked you to dinner. Yet, since you were asked to make the arrangements and most clients expect their vendors to pick up the tab, I would assume the client expects you to pay for the meal.

Have a great evening,
Barbara

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